Dating people at church
As Solomon, the wisest man of all, said, “For wisdom is better than jewels, and all that you may desire cannot compare with her”, (Proverbs ). A man who does not want counsel and hides from accountability is a man who is not ready to be open with a wife.
He may seem strong and independent, but he may actually be prideful.
We definitely were a church family helping and growing with each other. And not because the numbers of available humans are limited. Because you are known, church family people do want to be up in your business because they care about you. Don’t let any of this send you running to a big church to get lost in. If it doesn’t click and he asks out another woman, he can be cast as a player. If that one date didn’t really work out (or the next five), it simply didn’t work out. Or when he brings his second dates to be introduced to the church family. Be a part of keeping his good reputation among your church family as he chooses to brave date to discover who he is to lead him to find a good match.
And these people have the privilege of being your audience through it. I’m afraid this falls pretty hard on the men who have decided to step up and ask a woman out. It is even worse when this ill-fitted couple proceeds onto marriage because they’ve been together for so long. Don’t penalize the guy for asking out too many women from your church family.
And if he is not ready to be a husband, dating him could only have a sorrowful outcome.
Marriage is a covenantal bond between a man and a woman where there is dependence—to a certain extent.
If you are dating a man who expects you to be everything to him and always make him happy, you both are in for a harsh awakening after the honeymoon ends.
It is easy to see only the positive in the other person and completely ignore any warning signs. It would be foolish to date someone and not even consider the possible outcomes.Not only would it be foolish, but downright selfish.While you do not have to commit to marrying this person right away, you should realize that any guy-girl relationship you begin has the potential to end in marriage. That is why it is important to consider some warning signs you will look for while dating someone. If you desire to have a marriage relationship built on Scripture, you will want to marry a man who will be a strong spiritual leader to you and your future family. Your spiritual maturity may result in frustration and leadership struggles if he is not as strong as you in his relationship with God. Ultimately, your spiritual condition is up to you and you alone.While you do not want that to happen, it is reality. Also, if he wants you to meet all his needs, that is close to idolatry (Exodus 20:3, 4). Do not fall for the statement of, “I just care about you so much,” when a guy won’t keep his hands to himself.You will disappoint each other, not on purpose, but you will. The truth is, he cares more about himself in that scenario.
Because so often, “Love is blind,” input and counsel from other people around you will be very helpful to spot positives or negatives in a relationship. All of these points, of course, you should prayerfully consider in your own life.