Usually my reasons for ignoring those signs were really superficial.In one situation I thought to myself, “Well, this guy may be a little crazy, but he is a dead ringer for John Cusack.” Big error in judgment on my part.At least half of the qualities that are important to her are physical.When I pointed this out one day, she was a bit surprised that she’d put so much focus on that.As a 40-something babe, I now understand that dating was easy in my 20s.Forty-somethings have to find someone who not only meets all the 20-something requirements but is not all the things that decades of ex-lovers were.The really interesting thing about all of these narratives, is they came from people who consider themselves to be conscious singles.
My twin sister ended up marrying the first man that she went on a date with, and they are so blindingly happy that sometimes it hurts to look at them.
It didn't seem too hard: Put up a profile of yourself and find a title that says it all. After 16 dates with 11 women, here are the highlights: a woman who drooled when she ate (I'm talking St.
Bernard here), a woman who would rather have eaten glass than make eye contact, a woman who said she was 47 but was well past collecting her first Social Security check, and a woman who made Clint Eastwood (pre-chair) seem a little femme. I was no closer to finding love but a whole lot closer to finding an imaginary friend I might talk to in public.
More often, though, there were tales of extraordinarily dehumanizing behavior that were heartbreaking to hear.
One of my friends found who she thought was her perfect man, only to discover six months later that he lied about his name and age, and was married to a woman who was about to have his child.
I intended to attract men who were kind, interesting, genuinely liked and respected women, and were honest. Guess what folks; according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, 50% of the population over 40 is single, with 49% female and 51% male.